One thing worse than a break is when we want to break up but the ex still insisted on reversal . Especially if they did not want to listen to our explanation that it was all over .
So , what to do when the former was still pursuing ? Do not worry , here are the things you can do to avoid it .
1 . Do not send an ambiguous messageAmbiguous message is a message that is not firm. Maybe you want to be nice and friendly to him . But your good intentions could be interpreted otherwise by the former and viewed as hopeless . For that , you should send a clear message if you do have to communicate with him . Do not give the slightest hope that he does not get confused . Additionally , firmness give him to know for sure your establishment .
2 . No kiddingDo not play around with the former . Sometimes women often play tug that makes men as confused with their establishment . Tinkering will only hurt the feelings of the former because if you want to go back to him , but not really in a relationship again . Do not be evil , Ladies ! If you do have to break up , disconnect it . If you want to return , then accept his request for feedback . But do not mock him with the tug is not clear .
3 . strong stanceIf he be doing the things you do not like just to invite feedback , you must have a strong stance . You have to know when and how to show them you bahka decision was unanimous . Do it in a nice way if they are still forced either way . But do not hesitate to act tough when they began to be rude to force you . Be careful also with the possibility of their actions . Security should consider yourselves against them .
4 . set boundariesEnsure that the former knows the boundaries between you two , so he understands what things that should never be done . You may feel guilty because they 've already decided , but that does not mean you should always be nice to them just to cope with the guilt . Know that now you are no longer together, so you do not have any relationship and responsibility on them . So make sure they also know the position and the limits you set.
Being in a bad relationship is indeed difficult . But sometimes disconnect can also be more difficult . If you have an ex who was not willing to end your relationship , be solved only by means of the above.